A conservative Christian's controversial thoughts on Oregon's gay marriage law
My reaction and feelings aren't simple. If anything, I hope hearing raw honesty, even if you disagree with the conclusion, and hearing from a heart that earnestly seeks to love well and stay true to convictions, is somewhat refreshing.
So long, twenties
Well it's done. I'm officially thirty. Three life lessons come into focus as I reflect…
The list continues... My wifey wisdom
30. Don't text when you're mad. It's too easy to say things you shouldn't.
What took me 8 years to learn as a wife...
Approach is everything. "It's not what you say but how you say it." Someone smart made that up. They're right.
gay marriage: an honest conversation
"Have your opinions on gay marriage changed over the last 5 years?" I posed this question to my close (and very conservative) friends while devouring chips, guacamole and sipping strawberry lime margaritas.
Ken's Corner: When We Mess Up
Well it's inevitable. You're going to mess up. You're going to get angry. You're going to say something you shouldn't. We all do it.Which is why it's important to know what do afterwards.
Ken's Corner: Position versus Interest
Sometimes we'd communicate well, understand one another, empathize with each other, and still not come to an agreement we both could authentically make around an issue. It felt very much like a stalemate.
Ken's Corner: Five to One
Ken (our counselor) suggests living by the five to one rule. For every one one challenging or difficult conversation, do five encouraging things to/for that person.
Ken's Corner: Acceptance
But a month ago Ken encouraged me to accept an issue that has very much felt like a 'thorn in my side' but was completely out of my control.
Ken's Corner - Talking
Last Friday I wrote about listening. Not my strength.But today I'm writing what I've learned about talking (my fav), particularly in a difficult conversation but I think this can apply to any purposeful conversation.
Ken's Corner- Listening
Listening.Gosh. Just not my fortay. But I'm learning A TON about it. This applies to my friendships, not just my marriage.
Ken's Corner - Emotionality
There are three reasons for this series: 1. I might save you a co-pay (or therapy session fee) by sharing what I'm learning or have learned. 2. It forces me to be thoughtful about what I'm learning
Determined for Love to Win Out
Our 'train left the station'. Or so it sometimes seems. How many times we watched it go by. Hope deflated from our dreams.
4 years of marriage...
We've had SO many speed bumps the first few years. With living far away (in terribly remote places), dealing with family heart ache…
Our (extremely complicated) Story
I was 16. Jake was 15. I was sophomore. Jake was a freshman.My best friend was Melissa Bisset. Jake had a crush on Melissa Bisset.